In my mind lately I've been wrestling with a few things. Praying through them...talking with Aaron. After, I decided this was silly and why was I keeping this all inside when my husband may very well feel the same way? I needed to talk with Jesus....and rest in HIM. I'm sure you're wondering what I've been wrestling with. Well, should we or should we not try again to grow our family the conventional way....with me carrying that baby in my belly? Right after Elliott I was so ready to be done...and move on to adoption. We even had a phone conversation with our adoption agency. We were ready. I don't know what happened after that. I'm guessing it was that mean old doubt. Creeping in. Who was I to decide what God was going to do in our lives?? Did we have a right to make this decision? Would others think we were selfish? Are we without faith? I read blogs of women who had lost their first babies near the same time as me and now were pregnant again. They were required to be on bed rest for enormous amounts of time, living near hospitals. This could be me. Could I do that?? Leave my home, my daughter, my husband and my job? Just to carry our child knowing even that may not work. The more I thought about it the more I wrestled. Did I want to be pregnant again? Holding my breath for the first 12, but more likely, 20 weeks? Would I have gestational diabetes again? Could I even get pregnant?
Finally, last Saturday I sat down and talked with Aaron. I approached the subject with a big lump in my throat and tears in my eyes. "Are we making the right choice? Should we stop trying?" His answer was quick and without hesitation. "Yes." He then explained that Jesus had spoken clearly to him a few Sundays ago at church. Our Pastor had been talking about an impromptu offering we had taken specifically for orphans....to feed them, as the cost of this had gone up hugely and the organization that did so was very short of funds. That Sunday we raised thousands of dollars for this very cause. We gave money to that offering because Jesus had prompted Aaron to get cash back when at the bank a few days before that. While our Pastor stood before the congregation thanking them our Jesus whispered to Aaron, "I'm proud of you both and the choices you have made...choosing adoption." I'm paraphrasing here as Aaron did when telling me, but...that was definitely the gist of the conversation. The next day we went to church and it felt like signs from Jesus were everywhere. Our Pastor mentioned adoption many times in his message. But, he was speaking about how God adopted us into his family. To me that was all I needed. I knew without a shadow of a doubt what our Jesus wanted us to do.
We are passionate about adoption. Not just because we are unable to carry biological children. This is not just another means for us to grow our family. As Christians, we all should be....Jesus clearly tell us to in James 1:27. Just yesterday we received a newsletter from our adoption agency. I poured over it and read how adoption had changed many lives. I hope to share with you some of those stories. As we approach CHRISTmas in two days, I am in awe of our Savior and all He has done for us. Ever mindful that it all began with a little baby boy. Our Jesus.